Lately, I’ve been seriously thinking about adopting our current foster baby. No, she’s not adoptable, but my feeling is that she will be at some point… Another story…. I talked to my social worker yesterday. We are proceeding forward to finish up what paperwork we need to, but she made a statement that I cannot shake… “DHS may question your ages..” Found out the cut off age is 45, and while I am under, Phil is not at 46. She did mention we might be able to work around that though. I thought it was funny that we finally reached the age of being too old for something. It did stop me on my tracks to reconsider what I want to do. Am I just pursuing this for selfish reasons, easing my pain and heartache when she leaves us? Are we really the best family for her? We’ve had her since she was 6-weeks old, she’s bonded with us as we have with her. While we have family who love her, she will be raised with 2-grandsons.. Plus future grandchildren. Will that suffice as “siblings” so-to-speak? Or will she be better off with young parents who may provide her with full time siblings and family? I haven’t figured it out yet, but I am giving it to God.
April 7, 2011
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Only you will be able to tell if you’re wanting this for selfish reasons. However, consider the fact that no so many years ago, it was VERY common for there to be many children in a family (DH’s dad had 12 kids in his family)…this often resulted in the youngest children of the family being raised with their nieces/nephews. The mom and dad were still raising their own children, and yet had their grandchildren running around. It might seem a bit odd in today’s society, but certainly not wrong. She deserves to be with a family who loves her and will take care of her. Sounds like she has that. Keep praying…
Comment by Amanda — April 7, 2011 @ 3:56 pm
Thank you for your comment!! I was raised with my nieces and nephews…but what you said hadn’t crossed my mind!!! I’m continuing to pray!!
Comment by mom2blondies — April 7, 2011 @ 7:51 pm